Last Update: 8/11/2017

Is Living in a Van Lonely?

Vanagon on a lonely stretch of desert dirt road, sunset coming
A reader asked me if it’s lonely living in a van down by the river. He’s considering OTR (on the road) van life, and it worries him. But no, Vanholio don’t find it lonesome. Here’s 4 reasons why.

4 Reasons Living in a Van Ain't Lonely

1. You Can Meet Up With Folks All Over

One of my favorite things about being an OTR vandweller is spending more time with friends and family all over the country. I’m not tied down by place-specific work, obligations, or housing. So it’s easy to visit my peeps, staying a week or more at a time.

As for meetin' new people, your best bet is to go to meetups and events designed for minglin'. Bob Wells at started the Rubber Tramp Rendezvous for just that reason.

And if you park your ass a bit, you’ll almost certainly get to know folks. Last summer, I stayed at a tiny RV park in the New Mexico mountains for a few weeks. Vanholio is an introvert, but little by little, I got to know my neighbors and chit-chatted a bit, without even trying. It’s natural.

2. You Can Travel With Companions – 2 and 4 Legged

If you don’t have a significant other to join you full time, how about traveling with friends? Even for only short periods? Maybe your best buddy or BFF would want to fly out to meet you for his or her vacation and see a bit of the country?

And don’t forget about pets! Vanholio travels his Chihuahua, Ms. Barkley.  She's great company and a good burglar alarm, too. No one sneakin' up on Vanholio, I tell you what!

3. Social Media Keeps You in Touch

Vanholio is in contact with his peeps most, thanks to Facebook, Skype, email, Google+, and the rest. Plus phone calls. And you know what, Boys and Girls? We even still got such a thing as paper letters, sent via the Postal Service! Been keeping folks connected for centuries.

4. Solitude Ain’t Like Loneliness

Here’s the final kicker. Since Vanholio’s been vandwelling full time, he’s discovered that he ain’t hardly lonesome in the woods and mountains. Even when I couldn’t get internet, I’ve been happy as a pig in shit. The same weren’t ever true banging around the old apartment, which depressed the shit outta me.

I don’t know, but I figure the sounds, sights, and smells of nature are what we’re evolved for. Trees, wind, birds, running water, and the rest are kinda like company. They’re relaxin’, actually. In Japan, researchers have found that time in the forest makes you healthier. Whatchya know!?

No, Van Life Ain’t Lonely (Unless You’re an Asshole)

So get the hell out there! Van life ain’t any more lonely than any other kinda life. It’s up to you! Don't believe me? Here's a second opinion.

Gettin' mail on the road? Traveling Mailbox! (review)

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  1. Thanks for your perspective!

    1. Pleasure! It's one of the things that worried me, too, before going full monty on this thing.

  2. No, Vanlife Ain’t Lonely (Unless You’re an Asshole). You sir, have style.

  3. If a vandweller is lonely, it might be because the friends they had as a building dweller were readymade (school, job, church, neighbors, etc.) and they didn't learn how to make friends from scratch. Or they were lonely before.

    1. Yup, it's never the van.

    2. Right. My van never gets lonely, but it gets antsy if it stays parked for more than three days.